I am a wife of a sex addict  it is so painful I don't even have the words to explain. My post is listed previously of my struggles with my husband. He has now contacted me to reconcile I am willing to reconcile with him. I told him we can not reconcile as long as he keeps doing what he's doing and agrees for us to go to counseling and for him to get into a 12 step progam . He has agreed to do this but he hasn't put forth the effort to contact a counselor. He keeps saying he's going to come over to my house for us to sit down and go on the computer to find counselors together. But when that day comes he pushes it to another week instead and we just end up hanging out with each other as if nothing happened. When I question him as to where we should be right now he gets angry with me and says that what he's doing is a step in the right path and I don't see it that way. He's implying that I'm being pushy. He gets angry with me and says no one is dying and that it is no big deal. Am I being to pushy? I thought I am supposed to set healthy boundaries please help.He is still online with other women he doesn't know that I know.